Do we have one past?

So, what if there is a chance that our realities evolve apart from eachother, but that they change when we interact with eachother in ways that are beneficial for both of us? It may be that you have a possible future and I have a possible future in which I never see you, but you are miserable. Now that I made a decision to meet you, because it felt good, your presence in my awareness collapses some of the possible futures and they crystallize in your mind as memories of certain events. When I ask you about those events, you can share your memories of certain events in your past that are favorable for you. But if you wouldn't have met me, you would have told a completely different story to somebody else, because your past would have crystallized in a completely different way. Did I prevent a less favourable outcome of a possible future, by acting on a positive feeling and because you responded to it in an agreeable way, so that you actually remember the positive outcome of an event that in a slightly different future would have crystallized as a less favorable event in your past?

I ask if it is possible that the memories you have at any given moment are suitable to explain the reality up to now or that this only holds for the part of your past that is part of some other persons' life. Might it be that your most private memories are actually the ones that change all the time, because the events giving rise to these private memories haven't been interacting with others? When you start meeting other people, it might be that your memory starts changing and that you 'remember' certain events that in other possible futures would never have happened!

This is powerful stuff and I can't stress enough that something like this seems indeed to be happening. It means that we do not seem to be aware of our past and that it actually may change over time in that you will remember different events as if they had happened (and when you do remember, they did happen) but if you met some other people, you might remember other events or the same event with a different conclusion (and the former event never happened, because you remember it differently). How the events change, that you think make up your past, is part of the working of the Universe. I am not saying that I completely understand the ramifications of this, if it were true, but I am only trying to give you an idea of what I am thinking about in terms of how we relate to the Universe and how past and future are interwoven.

If I can find myself remembering the past differently than I know I remembered it in a less remote past, then I must not think to myself that I have remembered it wrong now or that I remembered it wrong then, but instead that my past has changed and I am aware of that change, since the memory of the event has changed. This could help us to overcome pain. Let me explain.

If you have pain over a traumatic event, and suppose that somebody asks: "Are you in pain now?" Suppose you say "yes", the next question is: "What exactly is it that hurts you now?"
And you will have to think about it. You must then admit that what hurts you is what you think about the past that happened to you (and it did). But it is still a thought about the past that hurts you, right? It is not anything in the present that hurts you, because now you are safe.

So, the next question would be: "Do you have the power to choose a thought that does not hurt you?" If the answer is yes, then it is clear that doing the exercise of finding thoughts that do not hurt you, in fact uplift you now, because you shift to thoughts that do not hurt you. Therefore, it points to a remedy to the hurt that the past may inflict on you. Eventually you will have learned that the past can not hurt you, when you presently choose to think uplifting thoughts. This means that you have the power to choose a thought that makes you feel happy at any time you deem it necessary.

At first you may use happy memories to trigger your happy feelings. If you are able to remember an event that made you happy, how does it make you feel that you remember that event? In itself it may not make you happy at once, but then I can ask if you remember how you felt in that event. If you do and you are able to feel the same feeling as the memory suggests that you had, you have successfully recreated the feeling of happiness, using a memory of a happy event. It proves that now, in this moment, you have the capacity to feel happy. Do you see what you are capable of?

Eventually you will not need a memory of a happy event, but only the capacity to generate a happy feeling. Then you are changing reality, because you have changed the way you feel! Now that you have changed that and changed the way you think about your feelings, you will experience other things that reflect to you the way of thinking and feeling that you have acquired. These events will be different and in support of your new beliefs about who you are and how you deal with happy and painful events in your past. Thanks to H.